If dust 'flies away on a ballistic trajectory'
It does not. It is entrained in the exhaust fluid flow, which, after surface impingement, is roughly coincident with and parallel to the lunar surface. It does not "billow up" and it is not likely to be trapped in great amounts in an upward-facing cup (i.e., the footpad). It will certainly not stick to Kapton-covered vertical struts.
...and 'go(es) a long way before landing', then how would you explain video footage of dust flying up behind the lunar rover's wheels
It's a completely different physical phenomenon.
It falls virtually straight down, albeit in slow motion.
But it
falls; it is not aerosolized as it would be on Mars. Therein lies the answer to your first question above.
I think you are confusing gravity with atmosphere.
No, you are. You are using words that refer to aerosolization and asking why the lunar environment does not behave the same way as Mars in that respect.
Yes, gravity causes particles to fall to the surface in a vacuum at the same rate, plus initial conditions. However in the case of fluid entrainment, the disturbed (and therefore entrained) particles largely left the vicinity of the lunar module horizontally at very high velocities.
The gold-colored covering on components of the lunar module is very similar to the material small potato chip bags are made out of. Imagine high-velocity particles hitting it. How many of them do you think are going to stick? Do some experiments with a chip wrapper and a handful of dry sand and tell me what happens.
How informed are you? Not very much, it seems.
It's a little early in your tenure to accuse the regulars of being stupid.