It's that last that is hardest for our friend to understand. He seems to have a one-chance, do-or-die, one ring to rule them all idea of how any of these alignments or maneuvers or, really, anything else can be performed. The idea of a quorum, or even of error bars, seems totally alien to him.
And stuck in this idea that there has to be one gold standard perfect reference at the start of the process, he simply can not adapt to the idea that -- as Jay so well explained it many posts back -- rendezvous isn't designed that way. It isn't ballistic. You don't have to compute the final landing based upon the first position reckoning you made, ever.