benparry, Hi. I just wanted to say that from my limited involvement, it appears that any assumption directed at you and your relationship (or ex-relationship, as it seems to now stand) with timfinch are circumstantial, at best. I like to see fairly solid evidence, before I claim a conclusion. There is allowance for conjecture prior to that, but it must be emphasized that conjecture is purely brainstorming until evidence provides direction. However, as a friendly nudge, I would also like to point out that the purposeful misspelling of someone's name (as in abiddon, rather than Abbadon) can be considered rude and derogatory. I believe this was unintentional on your part, as I am notoriously bad at spelling myself (thank goodness for spellcheck).
Regardless, I hope you continue to try to learn and do the right thing(s). That's MY own plan, anyway. Cheers!