Sometimes conspiracy theorists bring up when a B-25 bomber hit the Empire State Building without causing significant structural damage. Not only was a B-25 bomber significantly slower than a 767, not only was it significantly smaller, but, correct me if I am wrong, but the Empire State Building was rather massively over-engineered, being, I believe, the first skyscraper of that kind of height.
I'm not sure if you would call it over-engineered, but the construction was of a totally different type. The building's "skeleton" was a grid of steel columns spaced about 6 meters apart, cross connected by girders at each floor. Of course, this made for an extremely strong structure, but the downside was that any office (or whatever) space had, obviously, columns every six meters in any direction...
The height of a building constructed with this technique was limited by the fact that the taller the building, the closer together the supporting columns on the lower floors had to be (because the were holding up more weight). Not an engineer, o'course, but I suspect it would take a hellacious impact to inflict serious structural damage, and even then, the lower floors would probably hold together.
http://mcadams.posc.mu.edu/vietnam.htm
He was not planning to pull out.
Look up NSAM #263 (National Security Action Memorandum), issued 11 October 1963. JFK ordered the quiet withdrawal of 1000 military personnel by the end of 1963, and approved the recommendation of Robert McNamara and Gen. Maxwell Taylor that "
A program be established to train Vietnamese so that essential functions now performed by U.S. military personnel can be carried out by Vietnamese by the end of 1965. It should be possible to withdraw the bulk of U.S. personnel by that time."
I agree with you that JFK very much wanted South Viet Nam to remain non-communist. I personally am skeptical that the McNamara-Taylor recommendation would have been successful, but even RFK (in the interview you referenced) stopped short of saying that we would have sent combat troops in. He even states "
Yes, because I, everybody including General MacArthur felt that land conflict between our troops, white troops and Asian, would only lead to, end in disaster."
The question is certainly open to debate, but we'll never know what JFK would actually have done. Just IMHO, though, I don't believe he would have ended up sending hundreds of thousands of troops there, losing something on the order of 60,000 US lives in the process.